They worry about what other people think or about what would happen if they fail (or some even worry what would happen if they succeeded and who they would upset). But these are just thoughts and worries not fact.
Can you relate? You’re not alone, most of the fabulously smart and amazing women I work with feel the same way.
Here are the 5 steps to help you to stop self-sabotaging so you can get more clients.
1. CHOOSE 1 THING TO FOCUS ON
I suggest you choose 1 product/ 1 package and focus on that product alone, such as a 3 month coaching program. You simplify your marketing by speaking to 1 person. Imagine you’re having coffee with this person, they’ve just shared their innermost struggles and you know exactly how to help them. One way of doing this is doing a Facebook live-stream where you talk to this ‘dream client’ about how to solve that 1 problem your clients has. By doing that you’re going to attract the people who want what you have to give. You can go on to upload your live stream to YouTube, transcribe it YouTube will even do this for you) and use the video as a blogpost. Then email it to your list and post it across your different social media platforms.
Choose 1 thing to focus on and put your message out there in a simple way. There’s no need for overwhelm, pick one thing and carry on.
2. BE PREPARED TO FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE
I know that for so many of you doing something like a Facebook live-stream can be terrifying. The good news is you don’t have to do that, you can start with a simple blog post, even just a few lines of text. When I started doing video, it was really terrifying but I had to move through the fear otherwise I couldn’t create what I needed to create. And if I didn’t create then I couldn’t get in front of my dream clients and help them. You can’t help anybody unless you put yourself out there!
You are welcome to join my gorgeous FREE Facebook private group Healthy Wealthy Women’s Business. In this lovely supportive community women break their live-stream virginity all the time! We have a different theme on different days. Fear really paralyses women in business and when you’re caught in fear, you can’t help anybody. I think every single one of us is in business to serve our clients. So please be prepared to shift through your discomfort and do it with support – hop in to Healthy Wealthy Women’s Business as I’d love to support you there (live-streams not compulsory!).
3. BUILD UP YOUR MINDSET TOOLKIT
4. LEARN HOW TO SELL
Learn how to sell and learn how to ask for the sale without making it mean anything about you, so you can totally detach from the outcome. Because not everybody is going to say yes. Your only purpose when asking for the sale is to get a clear YES or NO.
5. YOU ARE ENOUGH!
Feel that you are enough, know that you are enough and go do your magnificent work in the world!
People need what you can help them with. People need the transformation that you can offer. So go and find people who want what you have, ask for the sale and – I say this with a huge packet of love – get out of your own way and do the work!
Yes self sabotage will continue to happen. But you get more and more efficient at learning how to deal with it as you become more and more successful in your business
So shove that self sabotage out of your way and keep putting one foot in front of the other, knowing that you are enough to do this magnificent work!